Tuesday, June 04, 2013

SUPPORT OUR QLD YOUTH WORKERS - THIS COULD HAPPEN HERE

http://www.yanq.org.au/4/post/2013/06/state-budget-cuts-another-5m-from-youth-services.html

The state budget, handed down today by the Queensland Government, sees another $5 million dollars of funding cut from front-line youth services. 

The Director of the Youth Affairs Network of Queensland has warned that this broken promise will have negative impacts on the whole community. 

Today's budget papers confirm that on top of efficiency cuts to youth services over the previous year, the Department of Communities has cut millions of dollars of funding to the Youth Support Co-ordinators Program, a program focused on supporting young people who are at risk of or have disengaged from learning to successfully transition into and through their Senior Phase of Learning. 

Youth Affairs Network of Queensland's (YANQ) Director, Siyavash Doostkhah, has today strongly criticised the LNP Government for their broken election promise. 

“These are front-line services we are talking about. The research and evidence on hand clearly demonstrate the link between disengaging from schools and ending up in the criminal justice system,” said Mr Doostkhah. 

Love is the drug - just for fun

Pedophilia - What does the latest psychology say?

Really really good podcast from ABC All In The Mind.

WARNING: THIS IS A TOPIC VERY DIFFICULT FOR MANY OF US TO TALK ABOUT. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF.

For many of us, sexual attraction to children is difficult to understandlet alone the disregard child sex offenders have for the physical and emotional harm they can cause. What is the psychology of paedophilia?  Are there differences in the brains of paedophiles, making them a biologically different class of person; or is attraction to children on a universal continuum, controlled only by 

Click here to listen

Transgender Conversations

It is very heartening to me to see and hear all the discussion and discourse about transgender. If you are a blogger or blog follower  just go into your favourite blog platform and search for transgender support. You should find lots.

Here is a great post from polymic : THE FIRST TRANSGENDER NAVY SEAL

"If you would have met Chris Beck back when he was a Navy SEAL you would have thought he was an ordinary guy. To everyone around him, he was a warrior, a fighter and also a hero. Albeit living up to all those titles, he also struggled with a secret that he tucked away deep inside himself. He wasn't actually Chris, he was Kristin.
In his tell-all book Warrior Princess Beck reveals that just like the the panty hose hidden in the back of his drawer, while he was serving in the military, he was concealing the fact that he was actually transgender.
In what has been called "one of the smartest and most important books of the year," the retired Navy SEAL explains that her journey hasn't been painless. Kristin Beck, formerly known as Chris Beck, served her country for than 20 years but she was never able to share her secret with anyone within the military.  She was deployed 13 times and fought in seven combat deployments being honored with the Purple Heart and the Bronze Star for her outstanding work. "
CLICK HERE TO READ MORE

Here is a booklist for Trans Youth in case you need to find some supportive reading

How do I tell my partner I have a body AND a past?

A great question and response about telling someone about your herpes (or anything). Thanks to Scarleteen for passing this on from Captain Awkward.com. Hopefully this is the sort of conversation you can have with the young people you work with.
Hello Captain and Company!
About a year and a half ago I had my primary outbreak of genital herpes. It was excruciating, both physically and emotionally, but I’m finally starting to pick up the pieces and feel like myself again. I’m starting to feel like I maybe want to date again, finally (yay), but I’d like to be prepared for the inevitable awkwardness of telling a hypothetical partner about the herpes. It’s an awkward enough conversation to have when you don’t have anything communicable. Herpes isn’t the biggest deal as far as STIs go, but it isn’t kittens and rainbows, either. Being honest has always been important to me, but it’s even more important to me now since the person I got it from wasn’t– between telling me he’d been tested, that he’d tested negative over six months after my outbreak, and that he’d show me his test results, there was certainly a lie. Herpes doesn’t happen spontaneously, and his test results never materialized. So I really, REALLY want to be open and honest about it.......

CLICK HERE to read the rest AND the response


remaining silent not an option

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Complexity of Gender



THIS GUY IS PRETTY ENTERTAINING

The Gender Book

http://www.thegenderbook.com/#

Wow go to the link above and look at the booklet. This is a great infographic about the world of gender. really really Good.


Brilliant post by Melissa Fabello that I found on Adios Barbie  Adios Barbie is sort of the one stop body image shop

As a sex educator with a specialization in body image, I receive a lot of anonymous messages in my Tumblr inbox from people wanting to know if their body is “good enough” for sex.
Will my boyfriend be disgusted if my breasts are uneven? How small is “too small” for a penis? How do I get over the fear of my body jiggling when I’m on top?
And overwhelmingly, increasingly:
Is my vagina dirty? How do I know if my vagina looks/smells/tastes right? Can I use soap “down there?” Or perfume or deodorant or douches? Should I shave? Should I get surgery?
It’s exhausting.
Believing strongly in comprehensive sex education – that is, that everyone deserves access toall information – I find these questions tremendously difficult to answer. On the one hand, I have to be honest with my followers and let them know the truth about how their body works and which “solutions” to their “problems” exist and are safe. But I also need to steer them in the right direction toward body-positivity. I give them their answers, but I also make sure to explain that the real problem is the one that’s inside of their head – that the voice nagging that their bodies just aren’t right is what’s really wrong.
That’s not the answer that they’re looking for. But it’s the truth.
Part of teaching people to accept, own, and respect their bodies and the bodies of others is helping them to unlearn the social myths that they’ve been sold and to provide accurate information about their bodies. So, for women with vaginas*, here’s a primer that outlines four myths that keep us from loving our vulvas – and from loving ourselves.

CLICK HERE to read more

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Fantastic Infopak called Vagina and Vulva; Your guide to your Va-Jay-Jay

Fantastic Images and interesting as well.: Thanks to sincitysexblog for this and to all the tumblrs who have passed this on.


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Hard Choice for a Hard landing


Relationships, Sex, Sexual health are hard enough to figure out at the best of times. What about people who have long term 'worst of times'?
Below is a great description of one person's struggle with relationships while living with Bipolar disorder. Hope fully this may be useful to you or someone you are working with.
Thanks to  By TANA WOJCZUK FROM The New York Times for this.

I discovered I was bipolar right around the time I found the love of my life. I met Xander while still on the off-ramp of a miserably failed relationship, a broken engagement that was, while not tragic, the icing on the cake. By this point I had begun introducing myself to future boyfriends as a “serial monogamist” (they always thought I was joking).
Like clockwork, I would go from passionate love and early moving-truck syndrome to screaming and crying fights right around the 2 1/2-year mark. For me, it wasn’t the 7-year itch but the 3-year panic. The relationship would come to a crashing end when I would enter the suspicion phase (not just jealousy but suspicion that the person I’d hitched my wagon to was trying to undermine me at every turn).
TO READ MORE CLICK HERE

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

GoAnimate: Free easy to use animator

A cute little animator that you can use to make fun scenarios: Here is one of my first demo's.


Paula and Dave and SHineSA by Lud Allen on GoAnimate

Lovely Video from NICHE ( National Institute for Challenging Homophobia)



Friend Zoned

Maybe you don't know the term? Friend Zoned means that you like someone romantically but they say (and most of us have heard this at some time or other) " I really like you ...but only as a friend"

Being friend zoned is not easy for any of the people involved.... but it doesn't have to mean the end of a friendship. Although dealing with the feelings can be hard - this is just another important skill to learn as we move through life.

Recently I came across this nice article on being 'friendzoned' on the Scarleteen website. Have a read. It may give you some ideas when working with young people around this issue

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Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Slut Shaming and it's effect

Great article on the effects of slut shaming from takepart.com

When young men and women are made to feel shameful about their sexual behavior, they naturally become reticent to seek advice about sex. Though the subject is not very well-studied, we know from research that emotional distress among adolescent girls is linked to earlier sexual activity, risky sexual partners, and getting infected with an STD. The medical literature also includes research linking poor self-esteem to riskier sexual behavior, while "sexual self-efficacy"—feeling in control of your body and your decisions about sex, including feeling comfortable saying no to a potential partner—was correlated to a lower likelihood of doing risky things that would make someone more likely to contract an infection.

CLICK HERE to read more.

Intersexion

Monday, May 13, 2013

Bfriend in Adelaide


Bfriend’s What’s on in GLBT Adelaide information evening will be held on Thursday 16 May (so only three days away now), from 6.00 to 8.00pm, on the first floor of the Uniting Communities building at 10 Pitt Street in the city.

Speakers will be representatives from
• The Golden Club
• Man Tag
• Samesex Dancesport SA
• Gay, Lesbian Qwire
• Unity and Friends / Trinity Sistas / Queer Straight Alliance Youth
• Happy Wanderers
• Team Adelaide

So this is a reminder if you haven’t RSVP’d but intend to come (please do so) ... and if you have already RSVP’d, thanks, and we’ll see you on Thursday evening.

Refreshments will be served!

The Bfriend Team

Bfriend

Uniting Communities10 Pitt StreetADELAIDE SA 5000
Ph: Women's Worker  -  8202 5805  /  Men's Worker  -  8202 5192          

FRESH youth focus for JUNE.

The next FRESH youth focus 3 day workshop is being held June 17/18/19 at ShineSA Woodville.


FRESH provides opportunities for workers to explore their own attitudes towards sexual health and relationships education so that they will be better placed to support their clients to make sense of their sexual world.
FRESH aims to provide workers with an increased level of knowledge and confidence when working with clients and colleagues in the area of sexual and reproductive health and relationships education. Many course activities and resources can be adapted for use with one-to-one clients and community groups.

Topics in this interactive course include:


• Sexuality & Sexual Health
• Sex & the Law
• Sexual Diversity
• Gender & Power
• Sexual Violence
• Contraception & Pregnancy Options
• Safer Sex & Sexually Transmitted Infections
   Bringing up the conversation
• Using education resources
• Sexual Wellbeing
and lots more



CLICK HERE to enrol

Teen wheel of dating violence

If you have never seen the 'power and control' wheel that is often used when working with perpetrators of violence you may want to go here to have a look at this 'wheel' in a specific setting designed to work with teens.
This is an easy to use tool when working with young people - it's visual and interesting and interactive.. Have a look.

Pressure re anal play

Great discussion from the Centre for Sexual Pleasure and Health bringing up an issue that many people find hard to discuss.

I know you guys give lots of great advice about anal play.  However, lately I’ve been wondering if anal is something I really want to do, or if I want to do it only because I’ve gotten so much pressure from partners to do it.  How do I deal with the pressure?

Ahh, yes, the classic “what came first: the chicken or the egg?” dilemma, this time with a naughty twist.  In many avenues of life, it can be difficult if not impossible to separate where the influence of interpersonal relationships as well as society at large ends and where our own desires begin.  Such things often cannot be separated in easy, neat packages– after all, society’s influence begins from birth.  Besides, simply because something came about as a result of external influences and even pressure, it doesn’t mean we can’t and don’t enjoy such practices and behaviors.  In light of this, I’m prone to encouraging people to do whatever feels good to them within the bounds of consent, regardless of potential external influences.

CLICK HERE to read more.

Body Image and Media responsibility?


Great discussion from greatist.com
This week, news broke that Abercrombie’s CEO Mike Jeffries had no interest in marketing his clothing to plus-size women. In response, media outlets across the globe expressed outrage, some labeling Jeffries an “asshole” for making women feel unwelcome in his store. Almost immediately, a petition appeared on Change.orgasking Jeffries to “stop telling teens they aren’t beautiful.”
The Abercrombie debacle came right on the heels of H&M’s controversial decision to feature a plus-size model, Jennie Runk, in its advertisements. Meanwhile,department stores across North America and Europe have made headlines in the last few months for using mannequins that better resemble real people than Popsicle sticks.
At a time when many people, especially women, suffer from negative body image, all this news points to an essential question: Are marketers and media really responsible for making or breaking our self-esteem?
CLICK HERE to read more.


White Ribbon

Great to see this report on the ABC about White Ribbon Day and the White Ribbon Conference.
1 woman dies each week in Australia because of relationship violence. The risk of this violence increases when a woman is pregnant.
THIS IS CRAZY. We all have an ethical responsibility to speak out when we hear about or see violence against women. This doesn't matter if it is something we see online or in front of us in real time. No more are all of us able to be a passive bystander.
Sexual health includes relationship work and gendered oppression. If you see something speak up.


Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Heterophobia: Flipping homophobia on it's head.

This is brilliant. 
This short movie is an excellent depiction of what the world would look like if heterophobia was really an issue. Switching homophobia on its head, to give people a real insight into what its like for many same sex attracted kids today.

Thanks to Adelaide Sexology for passing this on.



Hello Everyone

 I just had this passed on to me. If you would like more information or to enroll go HERE then scroll down the page it takes you to until you find the Re FRESH forums.

SHine SA is hosting a workshop on Working with Aboriginal People and Sexual Health.

The day will include

Short presentations from SHine SA’s Aboriginal workforce

• Exploring the issues that prevent workers from dealing with sexual health issues

• A look at support resources available for workers

• Activities that will help create solutions for workers

• Sharing professional and community success stories



When: 28 May 2013 (Tuesday)

Where: GP Plus Health Care Centre, 64c Woodville Road, Woodville

(Parking off Bower Street)

Time: 10:00 am – 1:00 pm

Cost: $20 – negotiable (invoice issued on receipt of the enrolment form)



Your help promoting the workshop is greatly appreciated



Warm Regard

Dominic Guerrera

For the price of....you could have....

Thanks to 'The Illusionists ' for this

Online porn does not influence teen sexual behaviour?

In my FRESH courses I make a point of discussing porn and the impact on teen brains and behaviour. All of the information I have used for this - and in fact have passed on indicatres that there are some destructive forces at work  regarding the links between viewing porn and teen behaviour. Well...

Researchers have found that viewing sexually explicit content on the internet or in magazines as a teenager does not influence sexual behavior as much as people think, according to a new study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

It was believed by many that viewing sexually explicit content could have a negative impact on the sexual behaviors of teenagers. However, not enough research was carried out to come to any concrete conclusions.

GO HERE to read more. I would welcome your comments.
You can also go here to here a recording of Dr Sven Axel manson talking at the Kinsey Institute re young people and pornopgraphy.

Batgirl is lesbian: Her room mate is transgender

Have things changed? Why are sexual diversities being included in modernised comics from such mainstreamers as DC comics? Is this incusiveness based on a belief that diversity is beautiful?Is it based on overcoming oppression?
Have a read of this piece from Adios Barbie.

In addition you may want to listen to this great TED talk 'Born That Way' talking about our made up binary gender limitations.

We have body issues

Great comic from Colleen Clark which I had passed on through my Adios Barbie feed
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CLICK HERE to read the whole comic. It's really good.

Being a woman is not a pre-existing condition

This is a clip of president Obama addressing the Planned Parenthood national conference.
This just shows what can happen when we get great leadership and public support for sexual and reproductive health - and the ongoing need for non stop advocacy.


Monday, April 29, 2013

Another new website - youthwellbeing project

Have a look at this website. Some good information, free resources and more. Here is what they say they do.


Youth Wellbeing Project is a Grass Roots Community Organisation - Impacting Australia and Beyond. We assist young people to navigate healthy relationships by equipping them with essential knowledge to make informed life decisions. 
What do we do?
Youth Wellbeing Project is setting a new benchmark in youth sex and relationship education. We provide innovative, engaging and evidence based sex education programs as well as youth presentations focussed on the whole-person and their wellbeing.

CLICK HERE to have a look


Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Consider Ageing

Working with young people around sexual health isn't just about being young, taking risks and enjoying sex.
In a comprehensive sexual health and relationships program we should also ask young people to consider ageing and sexuality. Why? Not just because all of us age. Not just out of respect, but also because this can give a mirror to the way media and dominant culture manipulates us as sexual beings. Acceptance of diversity is not just about GLBTIQ issues. It is also about acceptance of ageing sexuality, acceptance of non monagamies, acceptance of POSITVE SEXUALITIES regardless.

Adios Barbie has recently posted a series about ageing and sexuality/body image/beauty/etcetc.
Well worth a look. CLICK HERE  Remember teaching moments don't always focus on STIs, condom use and respectful relationships.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Just for the fun of it - new technology in underwear.

http://www.iclarified.com/29287/durex-unveils-iphone-controlled-vibrating-underwear-video-nsfw


Define Me

Nice anti homophobia clip.


Legal and Ethical Dilemmas

Any of us who work in the field of sexuality education are going to have our ethics challenged when it comes to meeting our legal requirements (mandated notification here in Australia).
I am interested in how others make sense of the issues that they confront. For example do you ALWAYS notify when you find out (or suspect) that someone under the legal age of consent is engaging in intercourse? Do you always suggest a police report if someone with an intellectual disability sexually assaults another person ( touches a staff member on the breast)? Do you follow the literal representation of legislation or do you sometimes follow a subjective interpretation? How do you get advice?

What about switching off? If you notice things when you are online after work hours - do you act on them or let them go. Do your ethical dilemmas disappear when your working day stops?

If you want to explore some of these issues you may want to come to the ShineSa forum on May 1st called Sex, Health and the Law


Professionals working with young people, the disability community, or people from diverse
cultural backgrounds sometimes fi nd themselves unsure about how the law applies to some
aspects of sexual behaviour. This means that they can be unsure about how to proceed in
providing information, guidelines, or moral and practical support to their clients and colleagues
concerning their legal sexual rights and responsibilities.

This forum will explore:
• key areas of law which relate to sexual behaviours and health
• some of the ‘grey areas’ in sexual law and their impact for workers and their clients
• the positive role of the law in helping inform healthy sexual behaviours and relationships
• key questions posed to the panel and facilitators by attendees

Panel members will include:
• Dr Peter Chamberlain: Senior Clinical Psychologist, Owenia House
• Trish Johnson: Criminal Lawyer, Legal Services Commission
• Detective Sergeant Peter Rodney, Sexual Crime Investigation Branch, SAPOL


When: 1 May 2013 (Wednesday)
Where: GP Plus Health Care Centre, 64c Woodville Road, Woodville
(Parking off Bower Street)
Time: 1:00 – 4:00 pm
Cost: $20 (invoice issued on receipt of the enrolment form)

CLICK HERE to go the online enrollment form BUT HURRY - ENROLMENT CLOSES THIS FRIDAY

More 'Dove real Beauty'

You might like the real Beauty campaign that Dove uses ( CLICK HERE) . I like it. But I would like to point out an ethical dilemma regarding the use of this campaign. Dove's parent company also owns the AXE brand that makes advertisements like the one below. Hmmmmm conflict of ethics??


How our appalling patriarchal legal system punishes the victim

The former head of the Family Court, Alastair Nicholson, says women are being put through distress and justice is not being delivered as a direct result of cuts to Legal Aid.

The retired chief justice says that the situation is so grim that men accused of physically or sexually abusing their partners are allowed to directly cross-examine their victims in court due to a lack of legal representation.

He says the situation is widespread and unacceptable and is affecting the rights of women and children.

Legal Aid groups say it's so traumatising that some women are too frightened to leave their abusive partners and go to the Family Court.

Go HERE to see the lateline episode

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Hack Schooling

We can all do this in sexual health and relationships education.


Tuesday, April 09, 2013

ReFRESH forum - Sexual Health and the Law


Professionals working with young people, the disability community, or people from diverse cultural backgrounds sometimes find themselves unsure about how the law applies to some aspects of sexual behaviour. This means that they can be unsure about how to proceed in providing information, guidelines, or moral and practical support to their clients and colleagues concerning their legal sexual rights and responsibilities.

This forum will explore:
  • key areas of law which relate to sexual behaviours and health 
  • some of the “grey areas” in sexual law and their impact for workers and their clients
  • the positive role of the law in helping inform healthy sexual behaviours and relationships
  • key questions posed to the panel and facilitators by attendees
  • Knowing what the law actually says in terms of sexual behaviours (consent/sexting/assault/age of consent etc)
  • Knowing how this law is implemented
  • Creating a space where individual ethics and legal requirements merge.


ShineSA is holding a forum for workers to discuss these issues. Come along and learn about the legislation and put questions to our panel of experts including;

  • Dr Peter Chamberlain - Senior Clinical Psychologist - Owenia House
  • Trish Johnson - Criminal Lawyer - Legal Services Commission
  • SAPOL representative
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When: Wednesday 1st MAY, 2013, 1.00 - 4.00 pm

Where: GP Plus Health Care Centre, 64c Woodville Road, Woodville (Parking off Bower Street)

Register: Online enrolment form is on the webpage: CLICK HERE to enroll


Complete the enrolment form by Friday 26th April 2013.

Fee: $20 (incl GST). An invoice will be issued on receipt of the enrolment form.



What has Star Trek got to do with GLBTIQ?

Does anybody remember Hikaru Sulu from Star Trek (played by George Takei)?

Well have a look at this picture he recently posted on Facebook showing the states in the USA where it is LEGAL to be fired for being gay.

Thanks George for this picture.


Gender : Navigating Masculinity

For those of you who have worked with me you know that I am constantly talking about 'gender' as a concept. The harm that our gender binary culture can create and ways that we can overcome this harm. Below is an article written by Kai Green on the website 'Everday Feminism' that is interesting reading. Kai particularly discusses navigating masculinity as a black transman. CLICK HERE
to read the full article.


“Straighten out your wrist, Brotha!” When my boxing coach yelled these words, I knew his call was about more than perfecting my jab.
I have experienced the demands of Black masculinity and the responses to my failure to perform properly are not alI that different from the experiences of failed masculinity that I felt within Black lesbian communities. 
But it is true, I am now a young Black American Male. People usually assume that I am somewhere between the age of 15 and 20. I’m 28.
The world is unkind to Black bois. The world is unkind to Black girls. But the way our gendered bodies are policed is different. Black bois are assumed thugs, thieves, rapists, and overly aggressive.
I knew this already, but I feel it more now like when I got kicked out of a Hollywood store because the owner assumed I was there to steal something.
He didn’t just make that assumption. This white man came over and hovered over me yelling for me to get out and to never return because “he knew my kind.”
I spoke calmly, but he kept yelling. I couldn’t help but think this man can’t see or hear me.
He could only see what he believed to be true about young black bois, and it didn’t matter who I was, who I had been, or who I might become. My future and past were predetermined in his mind.
I was the dangerous body that needed to be policed.