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BJU International

Volume 92, Issue 3, pages 211–216, August 2003

App to stand up against homophobic bullying

Youth mental health foundation headspace has declared war on homophobia, bullying and depression with a new smart phone app that encourages young Australians take on the three big issues from the privacy of their own phone.

It’s part of The Fifth Army campaign, in partnership with retail clothing company Cotton On, launched on Wednesday to urge young people to stand up against those issues.

Neighbours star James Mason, who plays the gay character Chris, said they were trying to raise awareness around homophobia and bullying.

“First hand I can’t say I’ve experienced it myself but through my character I’ve learnt a lot about homosexuality and the traumas people can face when coming out,” he said.

“There’s so many people out there, young people and the general public who have no idea what someone would go through in these circumstances so it’s really great to be involved in something like this and help create awareness.”

He said it was very important to tackle homophobia through education, not just for young people coming out but also for people with friends and family who were LGBTI.

Headspace CEO Chris Tanti told the Star Observer that homophobia was one the key areas because of the high levels of risk taking in the LGBTI community.

“What we know about same-sex attracted people, particularly men in the community, is that on top of the suicide rate being four times what it is in the mainstream community, the level of substance use is triple, quadruple what it is in the mainstream community as well,” he said.

“I think that’s about acceptance, I think one of the difficulties when you’re different in our society is that you struggle to gain acceptance and you struggle to find where you fit.

“We want to really make sure that the community know we support same-sex attracted young people and they are welcome and safe in our centres.”

About 36 per cent of eheadspace users, the 24-hour free online and telephone support service, are same-sex attracted.

“We’re hoping people can have some fun with the app… we’re hoping that people will at least realise that homophobia is a really big deal,” Tanti said

Once the app is downloaded young people can watch videos, undergo ‘missions’ and earn points to move up ‘army’ ranks and Cotton On store rewards.

Ruby Rose, singer Sarah De Bono and Channel Ten Bondi Rescue star Trent ‘Maxi’ Maxwell are also part of the campaign.

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MT GAMBIER FREEDOM TO EXPLORE SEXUAL HEALTH COURSE

The next FRESH Course in Mt Gambier is on 25/26/27 March.
Numbers are a little low so if you know anyone who would like to (needs) to do this course please have them register HERE or give me a call on 83005325



This course is for workers with young people, people with a disability, people working with aboriginal community - or ANYONE who feel this will enhance their practice.

In the course you will cover:

• Personal Attitudes to Sexuality
• Bringing up the conversation
• Sexual anatomy
• STIs
• Contraception
• Sexual Health Law
• Sexual Violence
• Pleasure
• and MUCH MORE

Hope to see you there.

5 Religions traditions of masturbation

Thanks to the Kinsey Confidential blog for this.

Judaism: Yes, No, Maybe So

The Talmud prohibits masturbation, citing the flood in the Noah story as punishing the world with liquid, a response to men who had sinned by wasting semen: “Anyone who holds hispenis when he urinates is as though he brought the flood upon the world…” Another ancient text compares masturbation to murder, as a man who masturbates “kills his own, and he spills very much blood.” In the present day, Orthodox Judaism is relatively less condemning but continues to frown upon masturbation, describing it as a “heinous crime of the highest order, a moral waste of an opportunity to share and instead using that opportunity selfishly.” Conservative and Reform Judaism, however, view masturbation as acceptable as long as it is used as “a form of release, of sexual pleasure, and of learning about the body,” but note that it should not be done obsessively or as a substitute for a heterosexual relationship. The Talmud also allows for masturbation if it leads to married heterosexual intercourse.

Catholicism: Pretty Much No

The Catholic church has taught that “the deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essential contrary to its purpose. For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.” However, circumstances such as a woman bringing herself to orgasm when it is not achieved through intercourse is seen as permissible.

Islam: If It Keeps You From Adultery…

Although the Koran does not specifically mention masturbation, many debates among Islamic scholars have occurred regarding whether masturbation is simply discouraged, or forbidden. Some view masturbation as the “least of available evils” that one might resort to “in emergencies” such as situations where one might be tempted to commit adultery. Other Islamic scholars have considered masturbation to be a minor issue.

Buddhism: Suffering or Pleasure?

Similar to other religions, masturbation has been discouraged in Buddhism, even though it was not mentioned by the Buddha. Buddhist teachings on masturbation range from prohibition, to acceptance for those who are not monks and are seeking temporary satisfaction. A key teaching of Buddhism is that suffering is caused by desire, which can inhibit spiritual growth. Thus, masturbation may be seen as not “sinful” per se in Buddhism, but an act that will ultimately result in continued suffering. Buddhism, like many other religious categories, includes many different traditions, resulting in myriad views. One author notes that “early Buddhist were determined and creative masturbators…” and in countries such as Japan, “wildly masturbating Buddhist nuns and monks frequently appear in Japanese erotic art.”

Hinduism: It’s Up to You (and Your Wisdom, and Your Tradition)

While Hinduism prohibits sex outside of marriage, masturbation is a matter of interpretation. Hindu teachings state that “intensely personal matters of sex” are “left to the judgment of those involved… the only rigid rule is wisdom, guided by tradition and virtue…”

Not all young people get 'transitional objects'

Lots of the young people we work with have missed out on many things in early life. Things that help or hinder attachments and separations. Have a read of THIS article and see if you can make sense of some of the behaviours that people you work with show.

“Where’s your baby?” said the mother to her sobbing 3-year-old daughter. “You need your baby!”

Her older daughter began digging through the two large diaper bags, and triumphantly extracted a fuzzy pink blanket. The 3-year-old grabbed the blanket and tucked it up under her chin, gripping it tightly. “There’s your baby!” the mother and the older sister said in unison. The crying subsided, and we went on with the medical exam.

So-called transitional objects — beloved blankets, tattered stuffed animals, irreplaceable garments — are frequent in the pediatric exam room. Some children clutch them to ease the stress of being examined or immunized, while others simply never leave the house without their favorites. Ask any small group of parents about transitional objects — or blankies, or lovies — and you’ll get a good story, usually of a precious item misplaced or lost at some critical juncture.

Pressure for high school girls to have sex

According to metro UK - The biggest problem facing girls at secondary school is the pressure to start having sex, one in five adults believe.

What are your thoughts? Feel free to leave a comment.

Mental Health Workers and Sexual Health BETTER model

At SHineSA we often use the PLISSIT model of a way for workers to frame their discussions with clients around Sexual Health. The main part of the PLISSIT model being the first letter P= Permission to talk about.
Here is another model being used in mental health - take a look!

Thanks to the Centre For Sexual Pleasure and Health for this information.

Sexual Studies: Sex and Mental Health: Getting BETTER

Every Saturday, The CSPH highlights news or recent research in the field of human sexuality.  This week we’re headed to Australia to look at a recent study focusing on the inclusion of sexual health information into mental health nursing practice.  About 20% of adults in Australia have long term mental or behavioral health problems that may affect their ability to form and maintain relationships.  As a result, and because of the prevalence of high risk sexual behaviors in all adults, this population is considered at high risk for STIs, sexual exploitation, and coerced sex.  Therefore it is important that such information is passed along to patients via those healthcare providers with whom they have extensive contact, such as nurses.

Demographics/Methodology

This was a qualitative exploratory study aimed at determining whether the BETTER model (Bring up, Explain, Tell, Time, Educate, Record) would be considered useful by nurses in discussing sex with patients.  Nurses were recruited from three mental health sites: a community continuing care clinic, an extended treatment clinic, and a rehabilitation center.  Fourteen nurses were chosen based on whoever was available and willing to sit down for an interview.  Slightly more than half of the nurses, who ranged in age from 24 to 60, were female.

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Ensure BOOBS for 5million dollars

Anyone who thinks that women are NOT sexualised should have a look at this.( Thanks to the Huff Post)

Jennifer Love Hewitt knows what her best assets are and she is willing to protect them.

The 34-year-old actress admitted to USA Today that she would consider getting her breasts insured for somewhere around the $5 million range.

"I need, like, an insurance invitation. If somebody was like, 'Hey, you know what? We would like to insure your boobs for $2.5 million dollars,' I'd be like, 'Do it. Love it! Why not?'" Hewitt, who wears a 36C cup size, joked about her boobs, according to Us Weekly.

Pointing to her chest she added, "These things right here are worth $5 million!"