Monday, February 18, 2013

Hook up sex during the Fringe?

Good advice from Shelby Knox. I know this article is written for US spring 
break but I reckon its applicable for Mad march in Adelaide.

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Spring Break Sex

By  
Spring Break 2011 is happening right now! Feminist activist Shelby 
Knox has a quick but important round of “Smart Girl Tips” to keep you safe,
 healthy, and sexy this Spring Break!
Casual sex with more than one partner — is NOT in itself damaging to one’s
 psychological health.
Just like the “free love” generation before us, millennials figured this out long
 before the men in white coats arrived. For some, hooking up is a way to explore
 their sexuality without a relationship commitment. For others it’s a form of dating — a good relationship requires a good sexual relationship, so why not cut to the chase?
But — there’s a catch. The study only covers emotional health. It just so happens the
hook-up generation is also a primary victim of failed abstinence-only marriage programs and their sexual health knowledge is… terrifying. Another new study , this one by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, found that less than half of young adults use contraception when they have sex. In interviewing 18-29 year olds, they netted what is officially one of the scariest quotes of the year: “it doesn’t matter whether you use birth control or not; when it is your time to get pregnant it will happen.”
Yikes! These are the brainiacs you could be hooking up with over Spring Break?!? With that in mind, it’s time for another round of “Smart Girl Tips” to keep you safe, healthy, and sexy this Spring Break:
  • If there’s even the remotest possibility you’ll be having sex on the beach —  anywhere else, for that matter — buy your condoms of choice before you leave and stash a few in your purse, the rest in your carry-on. Condoms are the only way to prevent sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, so use one every single time you have sex. (A condom can also be cut in half to be used as a dental dam for safer oral fun!) If you’re on birth control, make sure to pack enough pills for your trip and remember to take it at the same time you usually do — the beer pong can wait a few minutes, we promise!
  • Safe sex is the goal — no one wants to get a diaper bag for graduation! — but it’s not always the reality. If the condom slips off (or never makes it on in the first place), there’s Plan B® One Step, the only one-pill emergency contraception that can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex to prevent unintended pregnancy. If you’re 17 or older, you can get it without a prescription at the pharmacy — pick it up before you leave (Plan B® One-Step is only available in the US) so a slip-up doesn’t ruin your vacation.
  • If it’s mom you’d want the hospital to call when you’ve got heat exhaustion, program her numbers into your phone under ICE (“In Case of Emergency”) before you set off. When you’re on the ground, put the hotel’s phone number and address into your contacts and ask the front desk for the digits of a local cab company. If the hotel has a shuttle service, get a paper copy of the schedule and take a picture of it on your phone for later reference.
  • Hop from place to place in a pack and designate a ‘sober sister’ to make sure no one is slinking out the door with that gelled up, spray-tanned creeper or undressing for an ill-advised turn on the bar. As a rule, no one should leave alone with a new-found “friend” — but if you absolutely must head out for a hook-up, have a friend program your prize’s phone number in her phone and take a picture of you together. Set a time to check-in by text — and make sure to follow through.
  • The same ‘drink rules’ you follow at frat parties apply tenfold on Spring Break — never accept a drink from someone you don’t know and don’t leave it unattended while you dance or go to the bathroom. Same goes for those glowing vials of alcohol — take it directly from the server before it gets passed down the line.
  • More than 60% of employers take social networking profiles into consideration when making hiring decisions. Don’t let a week of debauchery ruin your job prospects by remembering that everything is a camera, including phones, iPods, and computers. Don’t do anything at a club you’d be mortified to see on CNN tomorrow. Be selective when posting your own pics — booze bottles, red eyes, and lots of skin are probably best kept under the ‘private’ setting for you and your fellow revelers to enjoy.

Monday, February 11, 2013

JAM - A sex positive video



I first came across this video about 2 weeks ago and have since seen in in a myriad of places. It comes from THIS website. If you are into sex positivity it is brilliant.

Sexnology


Just in case you don't know what is happening re the intersection of sex and technology here are some examples. This is not just a funny frivilous post. Think of some gamers that you know and how much time they spend online. Think of some of the gadget collectors that are consumed with the latest technology. While it is fun to know about these - for some of the young people we work with they could be problematic. GO HERE to read the entire post.
  • The Thrillhammer: This is, essentially, a chair fitted with webcams that comes with a device to simulate penetration and vibration. The Thrillhammer can be controlled remotely, allowing a woman’s (or man’s) sex partner to really go to town on her (or him). This is one of the more involved (and expensive) remote sex experiences.
  • HighJoy: HighJoy offers a variety of teledildonic toys for both men and women, along with an interface that lets one or both members remotely control the other’s teledildonic device. Thus, two people can experience a physical sexual interaction even though they may in reality be thousands of miles apart.
  • Mojowijo: Like HighJoy, Mojowijo offers his-and-hers toys (only one option for each gender, though) along with the ability to connect the devices digitally. The difference with Mojowijo is you can use your motion control enabled Wii gaming console to hook up. So after the kids have finished with Grand Theft Auto, Bowling, and the like, the adults can have their fun, too.
  • JeJoue and SaSi: Though neither of these vibrators can be remote controlled in real-time via the Internet, both allow your partner (or you) to email and/or program instructions that tell the device what to do. You or your partner (or a stranger, if you wish) can construct a series of “moves” for the vibrator to make. The latest version of SaSi promises to remember the patterns you like.
  • RealTouch: I’ve covered this one before, but the technology has advanced (and is apparently much better) since I last wrote about it. In many ways, the RealTouch device is similar to the Fleshlight, fitting over a man’s penis and simulating a sexual experience. Previously it could synchronize its action with online pornography. Now there is also a corresponding “joystick” that a man’s partner can use to control the action (by simulating masturbation, oral sex, or penetration). Working in tandem with the activities taking place either onscreen (porn) or “live” via the joystick, the device warms itself up, lubricates, pulses, grips, etc.

Safer sex-stigma and STI

Really good article from the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance discussing the stigma attached to having an STI. Covers resonse to statements such as ..

“If you have an STD who in their right mind desires to engage in intimate contact? none that I know of. There will be general rituals people could still participate in. Now in private practise you are free to do what you please, however, please name one person you know of that would engage in intimate contact, with someone who carries and active STD”

CLICK HERE to read the article.



Youtube channel

I have just found a youtube channel that discusses lots of really important information regarding sex and sexuality. It's called DrJensDen. There are approximately 200 videos on such topics as:
1. Why do we have sexual fetishes? to
2.Questions for Erotic Intelligence.

Go here to have a peek. let me know if you find something that is useful in your work with young people.

Wednesday, February 06, 2013

1800RESPECT

Many people may be aware of the

1800 Respect Homepage

If you haven't had a look at their website I suggest you go HERE and do a short exploration. Lots of information and tips for what YOU can do NOW.


Youth speak on safer internet day in UK





 ( Thanks to Kris Gowan from linkedin for this)


In honor of Safer Internet Day, a new report from Insafe was released that features the
 United Kingdom’s largest study of young people’s attitudes toward online rights and
 responsibilities to date.  It features the voices of both elementary and secondary youth,
 each group coming up with its own Top 10 Online Rights. Here are the ones from the older 
youth (11-19 years):
1.I should feel safe online;
2.I should not be bullied online, and should not bully others;
3.I should be able to access films, music, and TV online, but it is my
 responsibility to respect copyright law;
4.I should support my friends if they need help online;
5.I shouldn’t have to see unpleasant or hurtful content and I should know what to do if I come
 across it;
6.There should be lots of websites that are interesting for people my age;
7.I should be able to manage who can see the content I post online;
8.The websites I use should have an easy and effective way of reporting;
9.I should know what I can and can’t do online and understand that there are legal 
and offline consequences;
10.I should be educated about staying safe online.

Tuesday, February 05, 2013

Sexual Wellbeing

Take a look at this diagram that I have copied from a blog I follow called 'Loves of a Sex Geek'.
The person that posted this was talking about ALL of the things (Physical/Cognitive/Behavioural) that they feel in social situations. About how anxiety affects them and that anxiety is something that they need to be aware of all the time.

WELL... As I was looking at this diagram I put the words 'sexual wellbeing' in the middle and wondered about the effects of anxiety on 'sexual wellbeing'. Imagine that many of us have self doubts/feelings of inadequacy and more more more when it comes to our sexual wellbeing. We have physical/cognitive and behavioural outcomes that affect our sexual wellbeing.

Sexual wellbeing is something that many young people have not experienced. (Many adults have not experienced). It is up to the people that work with young people to help explore in safe ways the things that will help people develop a sense of wellbeing  - including sexual wellbeing.Help them identify the physical, cognitive and behavioural aspects that constitute wellbeing. -- It is time to cast off our fear (anxiety) around all things sex and begin open, honest, in depth discussions about this stuff.

universe-regeneration:

whimmy-bam:

sirileigh:

prllnce:

meggchan:

Mine is mostly cognitive.

I have all three. Well oops.

Dammit! So do I!

No one has said this yet, so I feel I must.
THANK YOU FOR THIS.
So many people don’t seem to understand that social anxiety can manifest itself in multiple ways. Some people will just dismiss that you have social anxiety if you don’t fit into what they perceive it to be, and that lack of understanding can be really hurtful. So thank you for this.
(And as my personal comment, I fit into behavioural and cognitive.)

Mines both cognitive and behavioural

G Spotting

Are you unsure about the G Spot? I wonder what you have heard or experienced. Here is a great film that is available to watch online called G Spotting: A Story of Pleasure.

This is only online until Feb 15 so watch it asap.

CLICK HERE

Relationship Violence - talk now

Their FB site is HERE

Orchids - My Intersex Adventure



"It's an extraordinary piece of filmmaking, filled with family revelations and a beautiful twist ending that could rival Frank Capra for emotional pull." - Trent Dalton, Q Weekend
"It's a film that really reaches out, and when it ends we sit back with the feeling of having been told an interesting and important story from a brave and generous person." - Best Documentary Jury, Mix Copenhagen
"It is engaging viewing, even endearing, and feels like a quietly important film that ought to be widely seen." Inez Baranay, Metro Magazine
Winner, Best Documentary (General) at ATOM Awards and #1 Film at Brisbane International Film Festival 2010 as voted by audiences.
Winner, Best Direction in a Documentary (Stand Alone) at 2012 Australian Directors Guild Awards.
Winner, Best Documentary at Mix Copenhagen 2011 and the John Deen Memorial Award, Spokane LGBT Film Festival.
Nominee, Best Documentary at IF Awards 2011 and Best Documentary Under One Hour at AACTA Awards 2011.

The Guide To Getting It On

I found this site yesterday thanks to Lauren Walker.
This is called 'The Guide To Getting It On' In this guide you will find (in graphic novel format) all sorts of Freebies, great stuff on sexual anatomy, birth control, the first time and much more.

Have a look HERE and let me know what you think.




But there is even more like:

How to & Then Some

  • 1. In the Beginning.....page 11
  • 2. Romance.....page 17
  • 3. Kissing.....page 23
  • 4. The Importance of Getting Naked.....page 31
  • 5. On the Penis.....page 41
  • 6. Semen Confidential.....page 67
  • 7. What’s inside a Girl.....page 77
  • 8. The Hymen.....page 107
  • 9. Orgasms, Sunsets & Hand Grenades.....page 115
  • 10. Talking to Your Partner about Sex.....page 131
  • 11. Sex Lubes—A New Look.....page 137
  • 12. Sex Legal.....page 145
  • 13. Handjobs.....page 149
  • 14. Balls, Balls, Balls.....page 167
  • 15. The Zen of Finger Fucking.....page 177
  • 16. The Prostate & Male Pelvic Underground.....page 203
  • 17. Doing Yourself in Your Partner?s Presence.....page 219
  • 18. Nipples, Nipples, Nipples.....page 223
  • 19. Oral Sex—Penises & Popsicles.....page 231
  • 20. Oral Sex—Vulvas & Honey Pots.....page 257
  • 21. Massage—The Ultimate Tenderness.....page 279
  • 22. Intercourse—Horizontal Jogging.....page 281
  • 23. Anal Sex—Up Your Bum.....page 309
  • 24. Playing with Yourself.....page 327
  • 25. Oscillator, Generator, Vibrator, Dildo.....page 345
  • 26. Fun with Your Foreskin.....page 357
  • 27. Sex Fantasies.....page 367
Plus

Your First Time

  • 28. Goodbye V-Card—Your First Intercourse.....page 375
  • 29. The First Time—Not What You’d Think.....page 385

Technology & Culture

  • 30. Better Mating Through Internet Dating.....page 389
  • 31. Sex in Cyberspace.....page 393
  • 32. Online Sexual Addiction—Really?.....page 403
  • 33. MRIs of Sexual Arousal.....page 405

Orientation & Gender

  • 34. Orientation in Flux.....page 409
  • 35. Same-Sex Fun & Luvin?.....page 419
  • 36. Gender Benders.....page 431
  • 37. Intersex.....page 441

Sex & the Human Condition

  • 38. Sex & Breast, Brain & Ball Cancer.....page 445
  • 39. Bashful Bladder.....page 457
  • 40. Sex & Diabetes.....page 459
  • 41. Sex When You Are Horny & Disabled.....page 463
  • 42. Snoring & Gas.....page 479
  • 43. Sex & Hysterectomy.....page 483
  • 44. Techno Breasts & Weenie Angst.....page 487
  • 45. Basic Brain Weirdness.....page 499
  • 46. Good Sex after Bad—Rape & Abuse.....page 507

Beyond Vanilla

  • 47. Piercings & Tattoos.....page 529
  • 48. Threesomes.....page 543
  • 49. Double Penetration.....page 557
  • 50. Kinky Corner.....page 561

Below the Belt

  • 51. Vulva Care—Keeping Your Kitty Happy.....page 577
  • 52. Surfing the Crimson Wave (Period Sex).....page 585
  • 53. Clean Jeans, Tight Jeans & Shaving Down Below.....page 609
  • 54. Hypospadias.....page 621
  • 55. Gnarly Sex Germs.....page 625
  • 56. Premature Ejaculation—Dyslexia of the Penis.....page 637
  • 57. Delayed Ejaculation.....page 655
  • 58. When Your System Crashes.....page 665

Pregnancy (or Not) & Parenting

  • 59. Abortion, Adoption.....page 683
  • 60. Trying to Get Pregnant.....page 685
  • 61. Sex During Pregnancy.....page 689
  • 62. The Pill & Your Sex Drive.....page 705
  • 63. Birth Control—Sperm vs. Egg.....page 713
  • 64. Sex in Cyberspace for Parents.....page 733
  • 65. Explaining Sex to Kids.....page 737
  • 66. Love Dreams, Sex Dreams & Sweet Dreams.....page 759

Sex in History & Popular Culture

  • 67. Hooking-Up Sex.....page 763
  • 68. The Dirty Word Chapter.....page 777
  • 69. Barbie the Icon.....page 785
  • 70. The Historical Breast & Bra.....page 795
  • 71. The Fruit of His Loom.....page 805
  • 72. What’s Masculine, Feminine & Erotic.....page 809
  • 73. Men’s & Women’s Experience of Sex.....page 815
  • 74. The Horny Pill & Patch.....page 821
  • 75. I Knew the Bride.....page 825
  • 76. Sex in the Military.....page 83
  • 77. Sex & God.....page 847
  • 78. Sex in the 1800s.....page 849
  • 79. Sex on the Interstate.....page 903
  • 80. Kink in the Animal Kingdom.....page 907
  • 81. Vaya Con Dios!.....page 911
  • About the Illustrations.....page 913
  • Glossary.....page 919
  • Index.....page 983