Talking to a partner about sex

This is a tough issue, but one that comes up quite often. Whether it is a person wanting to ask their partner to change something, or even a young person wanting to broach the subject for the first time with another person, or a young person asking a worker for advice.

Several things may help though:

• The only way to know if your partner wants to have sex is to ask


• You and your partners/s can make up your own sex rules together


• Communication really is one of the keys to having your own needs met and meeting your partners needs.

Sexual communication is a skill: Like many skills it needs practice. It also depends on the subject: There are many ways and many things to talk about such as:

• New activites


• Difference in sex drive


• Talking about concerns


• Dysfunctions


• Revealing a fetish


• Wanting to talk dirty


• your illness and your sexuality

When a young person wants to talk to a worker about sex it really is important to find out exactly what they are wanting. Dont shut them down and dont turn away.