Oral sex is the new goodnight kiss? For whom?

Here is some research  from Kinsey Confidential to back up what we already know.

Gender Inequality And Hooking Up

Today’s young adults benefit from the greater acceptance of casual sex outside of marriage or even a committed relationship.  But, that freedom may not be afforded to women as much as it is for men.  For example, researchers have found that men are much more likely than women to achieve orgasm in heterosexual hookups, referring to this phenomenon as the “orgasm gap.”  Like other forms of gender inequality, women may be losing out in the bedroom, as well.  A new study suggests that women may also be missing out on receiving oral sex in hookups.

Maybe we should start talking to our young clients and reminding them pleasure should be a give and take. Not just a TAKE. Go here to read more.

Oral Sex is the New Goodnight Kiss

I just started reading this. Go to this website and have a look. ShineSA has a copy in the library if you are interested.

Below is an excerpt -

"Some of the prettiest girls from the most successful families are prostituting. They are being targeted at their schools and at malls – places we consider safe. And, the predator is often an acquaintance. “The youngest girl I recruited for prostitution was 10. I didn’t care. I would just bring in all these stupid little girls,” explained Leigha, 15.

Of the high school girls he was prostituting, Luu Dang, 35, says, “White girls don’t really mind having sex with men for money. They’re not like Chinese girls. White girls only care about money”. Girls live in a culture where sexuality is tied to celebrity, status and money.

What happens to young girls who are conditioned to feel empowered only when they are the sexual center of attention? “When you see really hard solid men lose their shell, that’s really a powerful thing and it is all the time whatever kind of sex it is. I never knew I had so much power,” explains Rachael, 16.

“Both my girls crave the spotlight. They love being the center of attention,” explains Gwen, a biologist. “As a mother you really don’t want to think your kid can trade sex, but I knew [Rachael] was engaging in all kinds of sexual behaviors and guys would buy her clothes for sure. It’s interesting that she thought trading sex was a form of being powerful because to me it’s the ultimate in submission – selling your body.”

Here are some of my thoughts:

Suddenly coerecian and sex for favours seems a big deal because its MIDDLE CLASS WHITE GIRLS. However this crap has been going on for a long time for other less powerful groups.

Another thought is that this appears to be made as a warning to girls ( yet again) - dont let yourself get in trouble, dont be a victim etc etc. What I would like to see on top of this is the information about STOPPING THE MEN WHO ARE RESPONSIBLE. Its time to look at ways of changing the culture we live in that supports and allows this stuff. Why the hell do some men believe that forcing young girls to have sex is a good thing?? We need lots more work around this stuff.

Having said that - the DVD that comes with this resource is REALLY powerful and saddening. Get a copy yourself and have a look. Then make some comments.

YOUNG PEOPLE AND ORAL SEX- ONLINE SURVEY

FPNSW and FAR Social Enterprise are conducting research into young people and oral sex. An on-line survey for 16-25 year old young people is available at http://www.fpahealth.org.au/osyp-survey.html.

The aim of the research is to gather information on issues surrounding oral sex and young people. The specific objectives are to review (1) the contexts in which oral sex occurs, (2) young people’s thinking and feelings about oral sex, and (3) how young people access information about oral sex.

A confidential report will be produced from the survey answers.

If you know any young people that might like to fill it in, please let them know.